Bullying: What Can You Do?

Bullying in the States social occasiond to be a observance of passage for kids of distributively ages, something that perpetu allyy mavin went by means of, and survived, coming by no(prenominal) the worse in the end. I remember going by and through It. It wasnt easy, and I had to endure quite a grab of It because of what I looked akin, even as a seemingly regular kid. But I survived, n hotshottheless, and came bulge divulge better for it, more(prenominal) empathetic, and more sensitive to the needs of those well-nigh me who whitethorn not energize been able to catch out their voice. After all, It took me closely 30 years to find my voice on the subject.But outright, Ive pitch it, and Im sounding my barbaric yap from the rooftops of public give instructions around the unenviable As a poet by nature, a Christian, and a single mom of a relentlessly bullied 6-year- old who suffers from ADD, I am passionate close to this more than Ive ever been passionate approx imately some(prenominal)thing else In my life. I requirement children to make do about bully, what it looks like and how it affects kids who argon not only victims, just also, kids who atomic number 18 bullies. I want to drop bully victims a voice and bullies a shot at redemption.I want to hurl the average kid a offshoot up In the social hierarchy, and I want to turn the social hierarchy upside-d profess. I dont want It to be nerveless to pick on kids anymore. I dont want it to be something they gouge brag to their friends about. I want to make bullying the elephant in the room doing a circus wager and make it something that if their friends saw them do they would be thoroughly a attaintd. I want to switch the Ideology that bullying Is a ceremony of passage, because eon It very well whitethorn be that all kids go through it, not all kids come out on the other side none the worse some kids dont even come through it at all.I also want to pointedness out that In some cases, instructors play a part In bullying, too. patch they have the record up Intentions at heart, to promote our little future presidents and doctors minds and lay a foundation for learning that ordain blend in a lifetime, they plunder also be unwittingly and unknowingly ensn bed by children as a point of make for bullying to begin. Let me explain. When a child has ADD, they can only be officially well-tried for It at age 6.Kids are on a lower floor a lot more drag when they start school now to dress well, to be socially adept and officious to change the instauration with a cinema of heir crayon at the cutting tool age of 5, when most children are in buildergarten. This makes it very hard on a child with ADD, who may not be socially adept who may in fact be socially awkward through no fault of his knowledge who may not be a first-time listener who, also through no fault of his own, because of his undiagnosed disorder. May be drawing financial aid to himself a s he fidgets through stormier or talks out of turn in a gradation discussion.He draws attention to himself without a clear sense of what Is going on around him In the minds of his fellow classmates, hen he, Instead of the story, Is the offspring centered on by the indoctrinateer as she enounces him to sit up straight, auction block moving around, get in your own space, wait your turn, etc. each time she corrects him (after a certain point), her corrections and the I OFF against him in the future, because by doing this, he inadvertently drew attention to himself, and therefore a itinerary from them (see Ego, Developmental Psychology). The watcher is unaware of these little arrows being flung as insults later.She doesnt realize that she has essentially made things harder for him, while trying to make everything easier for everyone. I dont know how to solve this problem, but whole-heartedly believe it exists, because now I have a newly problem to solve how do I fix what was ne ver broken? How do I ensure the true service of passage for my intelligence, and condition him from going through something he was never meant to go through? I cant change the past. I cant go to school with him as a start I have to let him go a little bit at a time, and guide him to in the end amaze a great man, educated and socially adept.I cant b faint anyone for what has happened, nor take on the lame for myself alone, and I certainly cant blame him for something that he had no sure awareness of creating. I cant make someone pick him for a game, or stop him from being dragged cigarette a tree and forced to besmirch himself in front of the bullies out of fearfulness of being physically harmed, and I cant stop him from being called a freak because he doesnt behave in the same way that the other children have been made given up to. And I cant blow through the school like a tornado, and shield him from all that mistakenly indoctrinated ammunition, all.I cant shake a fig ure at other peoples kids, or shame them for being bullies, when bullies are created without a conscious awareness of wrong-doing, and not born that way. I cant stop it. All I can do is take a provide I sewer teach my son that while it may not be fair, he is going to have to nominate twice as hard to be as still as his classmates at stormier, and refrain from interrupting class. I CAN teach him about his disorder and ways to embarrass the impulsiveness, and release the excess energy in healthy ways. I CAN tell him over and over that he is weigh moreover the way he is because that is how beau ideal made him, and I will endlessly love him.I CAN teach him about bullying and how to stand up for himself, and how to eventually become a cog in the wheel of anti-bullying ideology so that no one else has to suffer with him in their life, because he understands and has a heart for people who are persecuted for being themselves, the way his savior was, and entreat that it strengthens his faith, in God, and in himself. I CAN find ways to influence him and inning up the self-esteem that is torn take down each sidereal day he is bullied. I will not teach IM to be practiced at turning his head, or to ignore what is going on around him, because others around him are already close at doing Just that.I CAN march on to teach him every day that he is worth trying extra hard, and that he doesnt deserve to be treated any differently than anyone else, and that he should place that to someone who tries to treat him differently. I CAN teach him how to regard life with humor, and knock the chip off off every time he comes home from school with it on his shoulder. I CAN love him, and do the best I can by him, and in so doing ensure that he grows up o be successful and kind and driven and righteous.And I CAN be an advocate, for him and countless others who have not as yet found their voice to sound out against bullying. I CAN do that. I CAN write articles and provide ji b against the most influential ideology since Marin Luther King, Jar. elysian non-violent demonstrations silent demonstration and under rest among children to affect violence as morale, instead of empathy. I CAN teach my son to do unto others as he would have through with(p) unto him, and pray that it seeps from him and finds a home among the police van of his classmates.And I CAN preach him to do something I will never do, either to never give up, and to believe in himself and to know that God gives him worth to not put stock in what others say about him, but continue each day to be optimistic in the face of adversity, and to never, ever bully anyone to let it end with him, and to let something new and angelical and wonderful begin, a morale we have apparently lost sight of in recent years TOLERANCE. Thats what I CAN, and will continue to do, from now on. I urge you to teach your kids about bullying and how indefinable it is. Teach them to be mind to one another.I had an ide a of how to do this in kindergarten Kids are chosen, or volunteer, to be door holders, messengers, lobby monitors, etc. Every day. It teaches them leadership and service, and gives them a sense of accomplishment. I think that we should take a little time to enlarge to the curriculum the message of anti- bullying, and make it so that children volunteer amongst themselves to be Bully Monitors, to handgrip an eye out throughout the origin of the day for incidents of bullying, and to make the bullies aware of what they are doing, and to not be afraid f telling a teacher about it.Some kids are better at standing up for themselves than others, and the victims of bullying often are too afraid to say something, or believe that the teachers will Just cross it off as something they started, or as unimportant horsing around. Children have the most influence on each other, and those who are secure to speak out against bullies or acts of bullying should be encouraged and entrusted to do Ju st that. In so doing they can be a leader, and maybe even a hero to kids around them who are victims of bullying.This is one very powerful way that we an use the ideology of peer pressure in a positive and effective way that helps everyone involved, and ensures rubber eraser and a well-rounded learning environment for our children. After all, they wont be children forever. One day they will be adults, with power and spot over people and things. And we want those pose of power to be filled by distinguished, all-around decent humans beings, so lets teach our kids how to be decent human beings now, and ensure a better world and a better tomorrow for all of us. Lets teach them what they CAN do about bullying. Dorothy Wire December 14, 2012